When they say “Your problem is that you can’t accept orders”
What they mean “My problem is that I can’t accept you not obeying MY orders”
More thorough translation, the person is a Drama Queen who believes he has such extraordinary Leadership potential that if you don’t follow him it couldn’t possibly be some failure of his “ability” to lead. Therefore it must be YOUR fault.
When they say “You’re stupid/ignorant/lazy/crazy/an idiot”
What they mean is How DARE you question my obviously superior intellect and judgment by not instantly agreeing with me?”
Drama Queen again, if he completely fails to con you into believing whatever bullshit he’s selling, it’s obviously not HIS fault that he’s not a good enough liar, it’s YOUR fault for not being gullible enough.
When they say “When was the last time YOU were in Iraq?”

What they mean is Only those who commit the crimes are capable of understanding why they committed the crimes and therefore nobody else is qualified to pass Judgment on their crimes”

Further Drama Queen. Especially when taken with the other two, he means also that people who don’t have the experience of Killing in a war, like George Bush, Richard Cheney, Karl Rove (who actually used the word “courage” in the title of his book) Paul Wolfowicz and other Chickenhawk draft-dodger/slash/war profiteers like the dumbass propagandists at Fox, are allowed to agree with his assessment that the war is a good thing, killing is a good thing, lying about it is a good thing.

But people who don’t have the immediate experience of Murdering Kids aren’t allowed to criticize. We’re allowed to agree, not disagree.

But then there’s those of us who Don’t Follow Such Orders….

And, when we don’t, the wannabee dictators go from Zero to Drama Queen in a matter of seconds.

It’s entertaining in its own way.

When they say “hippie, commie, marxist, socialist, lefty, liberal, fag, nigger-lover, bleeding-heart, do-gooder”
What they mean: “We’re stupid enough to believe that calling anybody anything other than Right Wing Freak is somehow an insult and will prove Our Bullshit Case and make you hippies shut the hell up!”

Again with the Drama Queen notion that they’re so superior that anybody who doesn’t conform to their program is by necessity an Inferior Non-Person. And that it couldn’t possibly be that their “superiority” doesn’t actually exist or anything like that.